Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God. John 3:3
"We are born not all at once, but by bits.
The body first and the spirit later; and the birth and growth of the spirit, in those attentive to their own inner life, are slow and exceedingly painful.
Our mothers are racked with the pains of our physical birth; we ourselves suffer the longer pains of spiritual growth."
Mary Antin-immigrant to the US 100 years ago.